Two weeks later. It’s still the new year, and I’m wondering, how are those resolutions going?
I wrote a blog a few years ago about how I didn’t like the “New Year, New You” tag line.
That’s because it implies there’s something wrong. It infers there’s something that needs changing, that you should be different. To me, it says, “you are not good enough.”
Maybe that has something to do with why resolutions so often fall short…..
Either way, I relate much more to the concept that you are already perfect.
We don’t need to change. We just need to love ourselves a little bit more. Well, maybe a lot more. And more often. Like every day.
We need to pay attention to our needs, listen to our bodies and honor our true selves (in other words, be true to you).
So, as you shift your routines or habits to improve your health and happiness this year, instead of a punishing sort of attitude around exercise or eating, why not try a more loving, gentle approach?
That’s what’s “new”.
The interesting part is that loving kindness towards self is often harder than punishment or guilt. It’s harder than setting lofty goals. Because we aren’t used to doing it. It feels weird. Selfish. Indulgent.
Let me explain. What I’m talking about is about a relationship with that part of you that’s deep inside but connects to everything else. Call it spirit, soul or whatever you want. What I’m suggesting is not outward love but inward love. And I believe it is what makes all the difference in getting anything to stick.
Start from place of love and of kindness. And then things will flow beautifully from there. Give yourself a gift everyday, the gift of loving you.
When you focus on love, doubt and fear will disappear. Stress will be much more manageable, and a sense of effortless freedom will be yours. You will naturally feel lighter, purposeful and joyful.
Do things because they get you to how you want to feel.
Find and embrace the good in every single day.
You know what you need to do, just go and do it. By all means, part of loving you also includes finding help or encouragement when you need. it. Remember you are never alone 🙂