Have you ever been walking down an aisle at Target, maybe picking out some new pillows or a cute rug, when you hear someone else nearby, probably in the toy section, yelling at their child?
As you listen to the hollering, it inevitably sends shivers through you. Even if you can’t see them, it is vividly clear what is happening. The young child is in tears, protesting about something. The mother yells back, rattling off threats while at the same time contradicting herself by giving into her child’s demands, hoping he or she will quiet down.
Similar, but probably even worse, is that overwhelmingly helpless feeling when your own teenager lashes out at you in frustration and you really have no idea why. In that moment, you are simply their “punching bag” because you are the safe one, the one they know they can get away with it. While it seems like they are “acting out”, they are actually asking for help, asking for understanding and love. But it’s hard to see that in the moment…..This is also true of the mom at Target. She too is pleading for some kind of relief.
The thing is, no matter where it comes from or why, negative energy is hard to shake.
Whenever I am with someone who is upset – whether they are spinning with anxiety and fear, feeling emotional and crying, or not thinking clearly – my urge is to want to step in and help, to light the path for them while gently holding their hand.
But that usually doesn’t work, at least not right off the bat.
When I try to how them a better way, “fix” it, take on the problem for them, I’m not allowing the other person to just be with their feelings, and I’m also not allowing myself to just be with that person despite their feelings.
It’s hard to not want to fix it or help the other human being. Especially if it’s someone close to you, someone you love. Yet jumping into their force field usually back fires.
Energy affects our stress levels which in turn affects our metabolism and health. So it’s important to learn how to manage the energy around us and create our own protective mechanisms.
The other morning my mind was racing but it was too early to get up. As I lay in bed, I intuitively explored a way to deal with this dilemma (shared in video). Overwhelmed with the clarity I got from doing a breathing exercise and visualization, I needed to document it right away – to talk about it while it was still fresh on my mind.
So while I was sitting in my car outside the gym, I decided to quickly make a video. Believe me, it’s not pretty or polished, but it’s honest and real. In the beginning, I ramble on a bit, but it gets better as it goes….! And I felt even better after saying it all out loud.
The point is this. Being in tune with your own energy, your own aura, is the first step towards managing the energy around you, what you let in and what you deflect. The more you are aware of your own consciousness and energy, the more you will want to preserve it by mindful presence and awareness. In that, you will find peace and the ability to ignore the negative energy around you.
Try it out and let me know what you think or share one of your own techniques below 🙂