Years ago, I started asking my clients to write down everything that was good about their day. Intuitively, this made sense to me because so many women were coming to me depleted and longing to reconnect with themselves.
Often, the natural tendency is to focus on what we haven’t accomplished from our sometimes very lengthy to-do lists. I think this is especially true for women because we juggle so many tasks, between work and home life. While we are busy multi-tasking, we forget all the little things we do every day.
So when coaching clients, my advice sounded something like this, “At the end of the day, I want you to find a quiet space to be alone. Start by writing down everything you did that day, no matter how small or large, or how important. Then from, write what was good about your day.”
In essence, I was asking my clients to start a gratitude journal, only I didn’t call it that. After all, some people don’t like the “journaling”concept. It’s either viewed as another chore or as a invitation for someone else to discover our deepest most secret thoughts…..and that is scary.
Yet, taking a few minutes at the end of the day to process, reflect and ruminate on what you actually accomplish, from the smallest of tasks to the larger ones can actually shift your energy dramatically.
The shift in energy from thoughts of disempowerment, thoughts like – I never get enough done or I can’t finish what I start- to feelings of gratitude for self, sends a powerful message that says, I appreciate ME…..I AM enough!
It’s well known that gratitude facilitates psychological and physiological benefits. But sometimes it can be hard to turn gratitude back onto ourselves.
Building in appreciation for self goes way beyond the tasks we accomplish.
On the flip side, not stopping to appreciate ourself often leads to mindless eating as we search for meaning, appreciation, or reward.
This sense of self appreciation goes a lot farther than appreciation from others. It also is easier to control and places us in a position of empowerment instead of disempowerment (think hero versus victim 🙂
So, instead of something sweet, why not reward yourself with love and positive vibes….?
Here’s how to create a gratitude “journal”:
- All you need is minimum of 2 minutes.
- Set an alarm on your phone to remind you until the practice becomes a habit. No matter what is happening in your life, try to make this a priority.
- Get a small note pad or journal. Keep it by your bed or in the place you plan to write every day. I like to write while lying in bed, it is the last thing I do before dozing into dream land.
- Make sure to use paper and pen. Your hand is connected to your heart and writing down your appreciation will connect you back into your heart center.
- Start by finding at least one good thing every day. Before you know it you will have a long list.
- Next start writing every little thing you feel grateful for….
- Be open and write whatever comes to mind. Do not judge what is worthy of being “good”, simply let your intuition guide you.
- Try to be as specific as possible, including stories of your day or things that happened that triggered your gratitude.
- Focus on how the things your grateful for make you feel. Hone in on that feeling as your motivation.
- If writing is not your thing, make a video on your phone. It’s important to verbalize your gratitude not just say it in your head.
Do this every day for a week and let me know how you feel….. 🙂