It’s a day to honor each other as mothers but also as women, as givers. Whether it’s fresh on your mind or a distant poignant memory, think of all the dirty diapers changed, laundry washed, lunches packed, dinners served, miles driven, checks written, tears shed, hugs you’ve given.
Most of all, think of all the times you were just there – patiently listening, unconditionally loving.
While reflecting on all you do, remember this love. After all, there’s no other love like it. Take joy in acknowledging all the love you give and all the love you receive just for being a mom, just by being you. No matter what is happening around or between us, the maternal unconditional love is what binds us together – mothers and daughters.
When my daughters were six and four years old, I was at my worst. Looking back it’s very clear that I was stressed to the max, unknowingly toxic and sick. During that time people used to say two things that used to drive me crazy.
One was “you need to be your best for your kids, they will pick up on your emotions and it will affect them.” Really?!? There was no way I could snap out of it for their sake. Emotionally I was just not able to. In other words, there was no switch there for me to flip.
The second thing people told me was, “God gives you what you can handle”, which was supposed to be a compliment for the fact that I had a daughter with autism. Seriously? I believe in God and divine unending love but saying he is the reason why I have an autistic child is down right preposterous. (That’s another conversation for another day…..)
What I’ve learned over the past fourteen years of healing myself on multiple levels is that yes I want to be my best, but not for my children, for me. Realizing that took a lot of work, faith and love.
It took the guts to make a really hard decision and commitment to adopt habits that healed me instead of perpetuated my unhappiness and toxicity. In the end, it was the best decision I ever made.
So, on Mother’s Day, join me in stepping into the spotlight to soak up all the love, attention and appreciation. Feel like a Queen. Take pride in all that you do, and let everyone else take care of you. Pampering comes in many forms. Find what feels good to you and just do it.
Everyone else can celebrate us on this one day of the year, but I ask that we honor ourselves every day of every year. What do you say, are you in?
From one mother to another, here’s a few nourishing ideas about a deliciously satisfying mommyhood – and please add to the list by leaving a comment below 🙂
- Trust your inner guidance
- Never doubt a mother’s intuition
- Take pause regularly to reflect on all you do
- Follow your values even if they are different than others
- Explore your passion beyond mothering
- Be you – honor all parts of you not just the giver and nurturer
- Write down one thing you appreciate about yourself every day
- Nurture the woman in you
- Nourish your beautiful body and soul
- Above all else, let love be the main ingredient in every relationship recipe