Being a mother is the hardest job I’ve ever done.
Starting the very first time I held that swaddled seven pound bundle in my arms, I didn’t’ really know what I was doing. Most days, I swam in a sea of worry, guilt, and exhaustion. All of the sudden my time was no longer mine to control. Then a moment of joy would surface, and I realized why I’d become a parent – to love something more than myself, more than anything in the world.
What I didn’t realize was all the things my girls would teach me. And all the love that would come back to me. That is when I knew every tear, every sleepless night, every knot in my stomach and sucked in scream of frustration were all worth it.
15 Things I Learned (So Far) About Being a Mother
- Let go of expectations
- Empower instead of control
- Lead by example
- Focus on the good, no matter how bad the bad is
- Hold on to your core values, instilling them into your parenting style even if it means being different
- Honor your feelings and theirs
- Trust your gut
- Don’t nag or yell, let them learn from their successes and missteps
- Learn to ask for and accept help
- Create balance between giving to others and giving to yourself
- Stand by the decisions you make even if they aren’t met with the response you’d like
- Celebrate every victory no matter how small or large
- They won’t starve if they don’t like what you made for dinner
- Disability does not define a child or her family
- Karma is real – feel the love that you give come back to you
Now it’s your turn! What are your most valuable or unexpected lessons from parenting? Let’s create a circle of love and be mommy warriors together!